I'm Sorry is Just the Beginning

Broken plate I'm sorryI’m sorry.

A great beginning.  Easy enough to say.  Some people throw those words around like glitter on Pinterest.  But it’s the actions that follow that give those words any merit.

I’m sorry is not the super glue or duct tape of apologies.

In fact, I’m sorry has become a blanket phrase, so much so there is now a hashtag #sorrynotsorry because we say I’m sorry when we’re really not.

I can apologize to my kids until I’m blue in the face, it won’t put the shattered plates of their lives back together they way they used to be.  They have new lives now, that don’t include me.  They don’t trust me,  they’ve been hurt by me.  My words, are just that, words without meaning. It will be my actions that make the difference.

I have learned the true meaning of promises and apologies in the past year or so.  I take both very seriously.  I don’t throw those words around easily, and I never say them unless I truly mean them and plan on backing them up with actions.

I’m sorry is a good start but it’s not always enough.  It isn’t a Get-Out-of-Jail-Free pass.  Some things require more than two words.  They require time, and patience, and work, and effort.    And there is no guarantee of forgiveness.

And that’s the hardest part.

About Becky

While control is an illusion, organization helps to manage the chaos of our lives. Becky was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2007. She has found that when her life and home are organized her bipolar mind is less manic. She shares her attempts at managing the chaos of living with her fiance and tweenage step-daughter, while trying to be a good parent to her mostly grown children who live 2 hours away.

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