A Letter To My Daughter on Her Graduation

I sat down several times this week, unsure what I wanted to say to you, on this important day.  What advice should I give you, what could I say that would express all that I feel in my heart for you?  I went to Pinterest to find Graduation Quotes for Girls, and cried.  I read Oh the Places You’ll Go, and cried.  It’s been a cry-y couple of days for me.

I thought back to my graduation and tried to remember what advice people gave me.  Everywhere I looked, there were the cliché sayings.  All of them touching, and most of them appropriate, and yet, when I stopped to really think about them, I realized, you already know this.

I’ve wondered, have we done it right these past 18 years?  The answer to that is not always.  In the end though, I think you’re ready.  We’ve loved you unconditionally, we’ve supported you, we’ve given you the freedom to chase your dreams, we have given you the skills, and the knowledge to take this next step.  I want to believe that we let you fly, like a kite, as high as you could soar, while we held the string to keep you grounded.

I’ve learned a few things from you along the way.  I’ve learned forgiveness must be earned, and when it is, you cherish it.

I’ve learned that boundaries are necessary.

I’ve learned that sometimes brownies make the perfect dinner.

You’ve taught me to figure out who I am and to be that person unapologetically.

You  have taught me, I’m not always as funny as I think I am.

I’ve learned that sometimes Mama Bear has to step back and let you figure it out on your own.

Your broken heart hurt me as much as it hurt you.

It’s ok to change your mind, but when you settle on a dream, chase it with your whole heart.

Most of all, though, you have taught me that your success has very little to do with me, or your father.  It’s your determination, your drive, your kindness, and your beautiful soul that brought you here, to this day.

We did not build it, breed it, or bestow it on you.

It has always been inside you. It’s there now, and it always will be. It will take you far.

You are your own person now, the world is yours to discover and conquer. You will do great things.  I have learned that I trust you to live life on your terms.

Happy Graduation Day my beautiful Muri.  Being your mother has been my greatest joy.  I love you.


About Becky

While control is an illusion, organization helps to manage the chaos of our lives. Becky was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2007. She has found that when her life and home are organized her bipolar mind is less manic. She shares her attempts at managing the chaos of living with her fiance and tweenage step-daughter, while trying to be a good parent to her mostly grown children who live 2 hours away.

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